Music – Never too late!

Maria Muldaur Rocks!

Maria Muldaur came to Nelson last weekend, Sept. 26 and 27th and played at the local Royal Grill. It was a rather small intimate older venue. We heard that Saturday night rocked. It was pretty quiet and subdued Sunday when my friend Kathryn and I went. MARIA CHANGED MY LIFE!!! I bought two of her CDs (well one was a set-so three). A bit of that was because I felt sortof bad there were only 40 to 50 people there - for this amazing, fantastic, still going strong Live in person dynamic singer and her band. Best Things I've bought in years.

You have to understand all my life I've gotten my music from whomever I happened to be with. My parents were first with the big bands and Andy Williams, WLW radio and Perry Como. My paternal grandfather, who I almost never met, gave me a little radio for my 13th birthday. My Mother hated that he did that. I'm not sure I found my own radio stations... So much never occurred to me.

Maria MuldaurWhen I started dating and marrying I listened to my men's music. Martin was the best. He has an eclectic taste in music, literature and art. I didn't need my own music - he had plenty to go around. By the time we split up and I stopped listened to the cassette tapes inherited or bought I was beginning to prefer to have quiet around me. Except when I was working in my jewelry studio then I would let my country music side roar.

And Jimmy Buffet - OK somewhere I still have a bunch of JB cassettes - and I've still kept a radio/cassette player just for that. A few years ago Robin turned me on to Pandora and then Jango. LOVE JANGO streams in Canada. When I'm up here I can find music I like that way.

But going to Maria's Live Performance and seeing this 72 year old woman singing with a clear strong juicy voice and looking hot, sexy and ALIVE I realized I'd been missing out on live music all these years. Her multi-media slideshow that went along with her show was awesome. I was deeply moved by her willingness to put images of her gorgeous younger self, at all ages, up there. If you are over 50 you get it. Getting older isn't easy especially for a woman - in this world that values young beauty. But Maria was a shining star in that regard. And she is such a proponent of live music. You can tell by her schedule and show that she has been performing weekly for years. She's produced forty albums in about the same number of years. I just looked at her website and she's also an activist! Just like the rest of us - really wants to Save Our Planet! Wake Us Up! Oh Yeah! loving your music. Thrilled with my CDs, will be buying more. FOR GREAT UPBEAT GOOOOOOD MUSIC TREAT YOURSELF TO AN ALBUM!!!

THANKS MARIA you started a whole new phase for me - at almost 65 - a whole new thing to look forward to - to be appreciative of - to ENJOY! Music - never to late to ENJOY! P.S. Today is Chavin Kinti's 1st birthday - think I'll play her I'm A Woman - one of those songs (besides Midnight at the Oasis, that formed my life). I still think I can do it ALL! XOX

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Click on a picture and you will go to Maria's Tour schedule or Bio. XOX



It drives you crazy! Why do they do things that way? Why do they do them at all? WTF

I live in a cohousing community in southeastern BC. It is a new community and There Is So Much to do! And it is late summer, people have been traveling, some committees are just getting going. Gosh our Common House isn’t even done yet. Nor the path from one side of the community to the other.

And I’m a newbie and an American at that. My voice carries – I blame that part on Italian genetics and maybe voice lessons as a kid. But I’ve been around the block group wise – The Artist Gallery – a cooperative gallery of over 40 artists in Flagstaff, AZ; the Great Peace March for Global Nuclear Disarmament (that was a Trip); teaching both high school and elementary school; women’s groups out the yin-yang. WORKING IN GROUPS IS A SPIRITUAL EDUCATION UNLIKE ANYTHING ELSE I KNOW!

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This post is an attempt to articulate one layer of what I see occur occasionally. Conflict happens – perhaps actually between individuals, or just an internal dialogue one person (me perhaps) has within about a situation, action, Something that someone has done. They just didn’t Do It the Right Way… or at all… or went 180 from the way I think they should have gone. I can create dissension in my heart and perhaps in my group by holding that position. And maybe what someone did is really against my preference.

But when did making someone wrong ever succeed in doing anything? No really think about it in your life. Other than making you feel temporarily – and I do mean temporarily, Superior. Does making someone wrong – within yourself, or within a family, group, organization, country ever Really help the situation? Does it make you feel loving or empowered? [note: I’m not talking about serial killers here I’m talking about someone relatively close to you pissing you off.]

I have a solution. I realize hundreds of long books have been written on this, and this is just an early blog of mine – but I do have a potential solution. What if we frame the whole situation in a different way? What if we are curious? What if we Forgive that person for not being us and consider it a QUESTION OF STYLE.

“People very rarely set out to cause upset – they just behave differently because they are different.” Business colleges have classes, workshops and degrees teaching how to work with this. 

This one is good….

DIFFERENT: Different personality types, ala Meyers Briggs, different generational groups, ala Boomer, Gen X, Millennials, and now Gen Z, different enneagrams (check this one out for fun), different astrological signs etc. We are different from each other (duh) but what I feel is important to talk about is that we each have a preferred style of doing what we do.

I’m going to end this rather quickly – Life has come up and hopefully I’ve made my point or will try to make it better later. Let’s give each other a break, realize that it might be Style rather than Error. Whatever framing of the situation helps me open my heart, forgive perceived errors and actually be curious about the situation is what I want my style to be!